7 Quick Takes Friday, Vol. 3 (Deep thoughts edition)
1. I read this column last night by Emilie Lemmons and I was profoundly moved. I’ve really been thinking about this part:
I rage against the possibility that I might die and leave my children motherless, my husband a widower. Even though the medical odds are against me, and my rational mind knows I could die, it is hard for me to accept death as an outcome.
What if I just let go of that? What if I trust that even if I die tomorrow or next month or next year, things will somehow work out? What if I allow myself to put the outcome in God’s hands and just live intensely in the present, absorbing and embracing life as it happens? It’s not indifference or admitting defeat; it’s seeing the bigger picture.
My biggest hang-up with the idea of death is not dying in itself, but what I’m leaving behind. Would my children remain Catholics? Would they even remain Christians? I have no idea, but I have a hard time seeing how it would happen. I started thinking about this during my weekly discussion group a few months ago and I’ve been having a hard time working through it.
2. I also really liked the quote Emilie wanted her husband to share after her death. It is on her blog, Lemmondrops. It is very strange to scroll down to read older posts and reflect that the person who wrote those words is no longer alive on this Earth.
3. Hmm… starting with death is quite a beginning, isn’t it.
4. Have I mentioned that I have a spiritual advisor and regular confessor? It is a very good thing. Most recently we were talking about how my fears show a lack of trust in God, and it was an epiphany for me. I suppose this dovetails with #1 quite well, doesn’t it.
5. Another thing we’ve discussed a lot is how God can turn anything - anything! - to a good for our salvation. Not necessarily a worldly good, as in how we often think of things being good, but to our ultimate good. This doesn’t happen automatically though. It requires obedience, a willingness to turn aside from selfishness and worldly things and an acceptance the graces He gives us in every moment.
6. Another thing I’ve been thinking about is pride. I was actually thinking I was doing pretty well in this area, until I started reading an examination of conscience he gave me recently. And of course, as he pointed out, patting my back about making inroads on pride is, well, pride. *grin*
7. Several blogs I read have been writing excellent and thought provoking posts on what they’ve learned in the last year and how they’d like to improve in the next. I’m having a very hard time making myself have that kind of introspection. I find the busy-ness of everyday life far more comfortable right now, which probably means I particularly need to do this. It is rather strange for me in a way because usually I’m one who likes to self-examine, make plans and lists and such. Right now the only planning I’m comfortable doing is my school planning for the second term. Now that I’ve finished that though, perhaps I need to sit down and make myself think a bit more about where I need to go. [Edited to add: I checked blogs after I wrote this (yes, procrastinating, thank you very much) and I found a post on Simple Mom with a series of reflection questions. I thought I would mention it in case anyone else is in the same situation]
Thanks, as usual, to Jennifer at Conversion Diary for the idea and for hosting this!
Anirvan on 14 Jan 2009 at 9:44 pm #
Your writing about one’s legacy reminds me of an ad I saw last week.
I just got back from visiting family in India, where life insurance ads are much more prominent than they are in the U.S. I’m not sure why, but I’d guess it’s connected to (a) greater cultural and other barriers for women in the workforce (meaning if a husband dies, a woman’s income is likely to drop harder in India than in the US), and (b) the fact that a larger proportion of people have significantly boosted their economic status in the last generation, and are afraid of backsliding.
Anyway, this insurance provider named HDFC has been running a cross-media (print, TV, billboards) campaign featuring a father saying “No matter what, my family will live with pride.”
Here’s an example of a print placement: http://www.afaqs.com/perl/advertising/creative_showcase/?id=8393&media=Print
I really like the ads, in that they seem both very human and chillingly effective, in the way it makes the viewer question the financial legacy he or she may leave behind. A legacy of values or faith isn’t the same thing as money, but some of that parental worry probably comes from the same place — wanting to know that they’ll have the benefit of what you’ve worked toward.